Candlelight is often associated with special occasions- gathering around a birthday cake, enjoying a meal with someone special, or reading a book by the fireplace. To me, there seems to be a sort of beauty of candlelight that is best enjoyed during moments of stillness and solitude, where the rest of the world is turned off for a little while.


                Religiously, candles are incorporated through ceremonies and acts because it is said the flames soft illumination “touches the soul”. Often people find they can achieve a meditative state more easily by focusing on a candlelight rather than a mandala or mantra. The flame of a candle, to put it simply, is mesmerizing and soothing. “The calming effect of candlelight can be a simple yet sacred tool to help reduce stress and increase self-awareness” (Amstutz). Try to incorporate candles in your daily life and you will, without a doubt, develop a more tranquil state of mind.


Incorporating candles to various aspects of your daily routine (sometimes during moments you wouldn’t expect) can really make a difference:

  • In the morning or evening: Spend a few moments each day (as soon as you wake up, or just before bedtime) sitting quietly in a space filled with a few candles, sitting quietly. If you sit and focus on the flames, breathe through your nose. “Turn your attention to the meltilng wax and imagine it as tension melting and dripping away (Ranch). You can include other objects that inspire or relax you, such as crystals, seashells, flowers, photographs, etc. that’ll help set the mood as well.
  • In the bathroom: Next time you plan to soak in the tub or take a shower, turn the lights out and turn to candles instead. By combining the stress-relieving activity of relaxing in warm water, with calming candlelight, you’re giving yourself a double dose of relaxation.
  • At work: Work can be very stressful, and lighting a candle on your desk or work space can help free your mind and release some of the stress of your job. Of course, never leave the candle unattended near paperwork or plants (although it may be stressful, you want to keep your job).
  • While exercisingThis is encouraged if you practice yoga, meditation, tai chi, or other similar activities at home. The calming effects can help you relax your mind and body, allowing for deeper stretches and better concentration. Sitting quietly or lying down in a candle lit room is a great way to unwind after an intense workout.

Look to my previous post for some scent ideas when picking out candles to further induce a calm state.


Shopping Addictions

Shopping is a cure for many emotions including sadness and anger. The majority of the shopping urge is in the female population. New dresses, shirts, shoes and the latest purses trigger a temporary relieve of emotions. Shopping is a sense of comfort. It allows for the other worries or problems in someone’s personal life to be ignored for a time. However this temporary sense of comfort can get out of hand putting many in debt and unhealthy habits.

Addiction to shopping becomes a serious mental disorder

“Specialists identified symptoms of shopping addiction in the 1990s. This mental and spiritual disorder is common mostly with women. Addiction to shopping has been shaping up as an epidemic lately. Researchers found out that about twenty percent of German women acknowledge their insuperable desire to buy something all the time. The addiction has conquered 40 percent of American women, whereas 52 percent of British females said they found shopping a lot more enjoyable than sex. There is no such statistic data as far as Russian women are concerned, although the passion for shopping has been developing in Russia steadily”

(Website Found Here)


Why does shopping give girls a sense of comfort? The main reason is the emotion of happiness and comfort that is released. Very similar to the feeling on christmas morning shopping brings people new things. New material items are bought but for many shopaholics these close still may have tags on them when walking into this persons closet. Shopping triggers comfort that a person may have been lacking in their childhood.

For example, in the movie “Confessions of a Shopaholic” a girl never had the experience when she was a young girl to experience new clothes and shoes that all of her friends at school got to buy. Instead her mom bought her cheap things that lasted a long time. Later in life, the girl develops an addiction to buying clothes even though she cannot afford them.

See Trailer Here

Not only do these shopping addictions occur in popular movies but also in the society we live in today. Marceia Hawkins, talks on the today show about her shopping addiction why she shops and how it effects her financial problems and her relationships.

See Interview Here