The Quiet Place Project

I highly recommend everyone to visit this site whenever they are feeling stressed, on edge, going through a tough time, or just need a break from well, life pretty much.

 If you can’t seem to focus or relax, the site (unlike any other) takes you through a calming experience and sort of puts your life into a perspective that makes it seem a lot simpler than you might make it out to be. It’s a cute little reminder that sometimes we just need a break, and we have to allow ourselves to stay calm no matter what else may be going on and preventing us from doing so.

I have forgotten about this site since I discovered it about 6 months back, and I am so glad I stumbled upon it again.


In addition to “The Quiet Place”, the Quiet Place Project has also created:

The thoughts room:

  • Here, you can pour your heart out and unleash whatever is bothering you into a little box on the screen. With each word you type, they slowly burst into stars and disappear into the night sky.

90 Second Relaxation exercise:

  • This sub-site is dedicated solely for the purpose of calming you down, and allowing yourself to relax and take a quick break from the the stresses of your daily life.

To some, this website may seem kind of corny, but millions of people are currently using it today, and that number only continues to grow. There is a reason it’s so effective- EVERYONE can use a break every once in a while, and often times we don’t allow ourselves to let that happen. Just by coming here, I can guarantee (so long as you follow the instructions) that you will feel ten times calmer, and less stressed then you did before you started.

Some of the feedback from the users of this site….

“When my friend sent me a link to this site, I had no idea how much I needed to really find my quiet place. It made me feel so relieved that I actually started crying.”

 “I’ve got an actual smile on my face for the first time in months”

This is a really interesting article on the maker of The Quiet Place Project, and his thoughts on how it has grown and positively affected so many people worldwide.

The creator of the site mentions how it took him about “2 months to digest the fact that it’s not just viral, but a true need.” People were sending him messages on how the project has changed their life, and he knew he had to continue. He created the thoughts room “enabling people to spill their emotions without being afraid anyone will judge them about it.” By releasing the negative energy in your body, you can find peace much easier.

There is a Quiet Place app that is now available so you can take it with you wherever you go, and use it if you’re in need of a little reminder to take it easy, and stay calm.


“Surfing soothes me, it’s always been a kind of Zen experience for me. The ocean is so magnificent, peaceful, and awesome. The rest of the world disappears for me when I’m on a wave”
-Paul Walker

                  If you have ever surfed, (and enjoyed it), you would know that this quote by Walker could not be more accurate. When you’re out there in the middle of the ocean, you have a different state of mind. Despite the fact that there could be a giant shark beneath you, you must block out that possibility and enjoy the experience, otherwise you’ll never be able to find peace while surfing. You have to allow yourself to let your mind go (to an extent), and just absorb yourself into the moment. When people say surfing clears the mind, they’re not lying. For me, it instantly washes away the stress and negative thoughts and allows me to stay tranquil. The calm rhythm of the waves passing underneath my board relaxes me, and if there was no such thing as nighttime, I would be out on a board forever.


“I surf because it keeps my life at an even keel, without it I would tip into the oblivion.”

– Andy Irons.

Me surfing for the first time in the Outer Banks last year. I've been hooked ever since.

Me surfing for the first time in the Outer Banks last year. I’ve been hooked ever since.

Surfing is used very often as a form of “therapy” for kids with disabilities. This article on autism explains how an amazing program called “Surfers Healing” helps over 2,000 autistic children a year to focus, overcome their fears, decrease anxiety, and much more through surfing.  This one paragraph of one of the parents of a child attending the camp stood out to me:

“My son was screaming. He did not want to go into that ocean. He did not want to go with the surfer, and I was sobbing,” she said. “I was frightened for my son to see him crying.” Alex’s mood did not change as he and the surfer paddled out over the waves to a spot beyond the breakers, where the water was placid. They sat there for about 10 minutes and Alex showed he was no longer scared. “We saw them paddling in and they were about to catch the wave. I saw my son’s face and he was smiling and he was excited. He was happy,” Shanea Acebal said. “When they came on the shore, he was calm, he was focused. Throughout the entire afternoon, he just sat still, which is very rare for a child with autism.”

Another article I found uses surfing to help those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It’s really interesting and further proves the healing powers that surfing has on both the mind and body.

When it comes to big wave surfing (for the very experienced surfers), it is extremely important that they remain calm at all times, no matter how easy it is to panic and freak out. Surfer Mark Healy gives his input on big wave surfing:

“When it comes to holding my breath in big waves, I think there are three factors involved: lung capacity, cardiovascular fitness, and staying calm. All three are important, but the most important one for me is being in a strong mental state and staying calm.”

Makayla and I waiting for a set in Rhode Island this past summer.

Makayla and I waiting for a set in Rhode Island this past summer.



Candlelight is often associated with special occasions- gathering around a birthday cake, enjoying a meal with someone special, or reading a book by the fireplace. To me, there seems to be a sort of beauty of candlelight that is best enjoyed during moments of stillness and solitude, where the rest of the world is turned off for a little while.


                Religiously, candles are incorporated through ceremonies and acts because it is said the flames soft illumination “touches the soul”. Often people find they can achieve a meditative state more easily by focusing on a candlelight rather than a mandala or mantra. The flame of a candle, to put it simply, is mesmerizing and soothing. “The calming effect of candlelight can be a simple yet sacred tool to help reduce stress and increase self-awareness” (Amstutz). Try to incorporate candles in your daily life and you will, without a doubt, develop a more tranquil state of mind.


Incorporating candles to various aspects of your daily routine (sometimes during moments you wouldn’t expect) can really make a difference:

  • In the morning or evening: Spend a few moments each day (as soon as you wake up, or just before bedtime) sitting quietly in a space filled with a few candles, sitting quietly. If you sit and focus on the flames, breathe through your nose. “Turn your attention to the meltilng wax and imagine it as tension melting and dripping away (Ranch). You can include other objects that inspire or relax you, such as crystals, seashells, flowers, photographs, etc. that’ll help set the mood as well.
  • In the bathroom: Next time you plan to soak in the tub or take a shower, turn the lights out and turn to candles instead. By combining the stress-relieving activity of relaxing in warm water, with calming candlelight, you’re giving yourself a double dose of relaxation.
  • At work: Work can be very stressful, and lighting a candle on your desk or work space can help free your mind and release some of the stress of your job. Of course, never leave the candle unattended near paperwork or plants (although it may be stressful, you want to keep your job).
  • While exercisingThis is encouraged if you practice yoga, meditation, tai chi, or other similar activities at home. The calming effects can help you relax your mind and body, allowing for deeper stretches and better concentration. Sitting quietly or lying down in a candle lit room is a great way to unwind after an intense workout.

Look to my previous post for some scent ideas when picking out candles to further induce a calm state.


Calm Poetry

Stay Calm

Grenville Kleiser


When you feel like saying something

That you know you will regret,
Or keenly feel an insult
Not quite easy to forget,
That’s the time to curb resentment
And maintain a mental peace,
For when your mind is tranquil
All your ill thoughts simply cease.It’s easy to be angry
When defrauded or defied,
To be peeved and disappointed
If your wishes are denied;
But to win a worthwhile battle
Over selfishness and spite,
You must learn to keep strict silence
Though you know you’re in the right.So keep your mental balance
When confronted by a foe,
Be it enemy in ambush
Or some danger that you know.
If you are poised and tranquil
When all around is strife,
Be assured that you have mastered
The most vital thing in life.
I found this poem online, and I fell in love with it as I was reading it. I think it really captures what it really means to be a calm person, or be in a calm state of mind without directly using the word. I love the ending when it mentions “Be assured that you have mastered the most vital thing in life”. The author is referring to mastering calm. The whole poem leads up to the last 2 lines, mentioning actions you should take that although may be hard, it will be worth it in the end. It includes other emotions and feelings and directs them towards a relaxed point of view, and how to channel your emotions into a realistic calm. You are not going to win every argument, and every argument isn’t even worth having, so you shouldn’t be so uptight about it and just remain tranquil as difficult as it may be, and you will ultimately be the one with the benefit. My favorite part of the poem is when the author says:
“For when your mind is tranquil
All your ill thoughts simply cease.”
If you keep a solid peace of mind, you will not be burdened with harsh thoughts and emotions.

Calming Scents

Believe it or not, there are many scents that contribute to a calm state of being, and help de-stress your system. After a long day, all you want to do is curl up in blankets and relax. You can help to further your relaxation by surrounding yourself with certain scents. Also, the more natural the scent, the more beneficial it will be for you. Many scents (lotions, candles, etc) have added chemicals inside that can harm your body.

One of my favorite scents, coconut, has not only a tendency to calm you down, but according to scientific research, it also slows your heart rate and reduces your blood pressure.  For me, the coconut scent reminds me of summer and the ocean so that in itself makes me feel relaxed. I typically burn coconut candles in my room, which keeps it smelling good all the time, and it instantly makes me feel more comfortable and calm. It is by far my favorite scent 🙂


Floral scents, such as rose, jasmine, geranium, and lotus, are very useful when it comes to de-stressing. The spleen, according to Traditional Chinese Medicine, is the body part that is the most affected by stress (each major organs corresponds to a scent), so by surrounding yourself with floral scents you are targeting the spleen and reducing your stress level.

Lavender is a very common scent that is used by many people. Lavender, actually, is used best just before sleep. I have come across many sprays that you can spray on your pillow before you head to bed, that  help calm you down and allow you to sleep easier. I have one that I use frequently, typically if I have a stressful day, and it’s calming to know that with each breath I take i’m filled with a refreshing and cooling scent of lavender, and I do believe it helps me fall asleep faster. Lavender has also proven to treat sore muscles, breathing problems, and hair care. By having lavender on my pillow at night i’m not only helping myself de-stress but I am providing my body with other benefits as well!

You probably know that drinking tea is good for your digestive system and soothing anxiety, but it might surprise you that just the smell of Chamomile tea is “good on its own for inducing a calm state” (Richard Lobbenburg). Chamomile is known to reduce cortisol levels, which are the levels that rise when you are in a stressful situation. It also has anti-inflammatory effects and it will help reduce some of the pain that might be causing you stress. I personally try to drink a cup of tea every night, and if it’s late at night, I drink chamomile tea rather than other kinds, because it is one of the most calming and is beneficial before I go to sleep.

Lastly, sandalwood is said to be the “King of Calm”. It has long been used to assist with meditation. It has a warm, woody scent, and has been used in Traditional Chinese medicines for disorders associated with the nervous system, depression, and anxiety. Not only that, but it is great for your skin, so when used in body lotion or shampoo, it provides your body with extra benefits! If you love more “nature-y” scents, this is definitely the one for you.




Calm After The Storm


                  Often we speak of the calm before the storm, referring to that state of waiting with the exciting hint of anticipation. But in my opinion, it isn’t calm we feel before the storm, but rather after. Have you ever been outside enjoying a summer picnic or a walk in the woods, and you suddenly become aware of how quiet the world around you has become? There is no disturbance in the air or a rustle in the trees towering above you, and even the birds and squirrels stopped scurrying around and are nestled away in their homes somewhere. It’s almost as if you can feel the storm making its way towards you. The ominous clouds fill in the sky above and you rush back to shelter as soon as you can, but only after a few drops of rain land on your skin.

Many refer to this point in time as the calm before the storm, but it is more of a peculiar calm than a reassuring calm. You can’t be at a calm state of mind and being if you know that a storm is coming, bringing uncertainty with it. It’s an anxious waiting game, not knowing how severe it will be or the damage it will cause. It is only when the storm has completely passed and the sun starts to peek out of the clouds again that you can be at a completely calm state of being. The worst part is over.


Calm In Art

Whenever I need to relieve stress, or just settle down after a long day, I turn to my sketchbook. For some reason, drawing and sketching brings me to a calm state of mind that I often get lost in for hours. I don’t know why this is- Maybe it is the strokes of the pen or the monotony and repetition of lines being made, but it is nice knowing that I can always fall back on my sketchbook when all else fails.

I did some research to try and find out more on why art is able to bring such a calm feeling to me, and possibly others as well.

I found out that there is an “activity” referred to as art therapy, which is actually very beneficial on many different aspects. It’s roots come from the theories of Freud, who believed in the power of imagery to tap into the thoughts, memories, and feelings of a person. He worked with symbolism in dreams to help his clients uncover their unconscious thoughts and feelings. Then, when the early 1900’s rolled around, an educator, Margaret Naumburg, believed that “the symbolic communication of art would access feelings quicker than language”, and she then was able to develop art therapy into a recognized profession.

The practice of art therapy is proven to prompt an individual to express their deep feelings and provide a release of emotions when they often can’t find words to do so. A more clear definition of art therapy and how it relates to being calm would be “it is about getting feelings out in a creative manner without the filter of words. Art provides as safe place to explore feelings such as anger, fear, or sadness, that might be viewed as ‘not okay’ to talk about or feel”. For me personally, when I draw, it’s almost as if all of these bad feelings are released and I just get lost in the artwork, even if the art i’m doing isn’t that serious. “Art therapy is not concerned with how artistic or how well a person can draw, paint, or work with clay. It is about the process of self-expression, not the product”. The way the art relates to the feelings an individual is experiencing is through the right brain, which is being used when working with imagery. This is also where emotions reside, as opposed to the more analytical left side of the brain.

Art therapy is actually used in hospitals, clinics, rehab facilities, schools, private practice, and senior centers. There really is no limit in regards to the type of person, or the age of the person who is participating in art therapy.

“Taking part in art-making helps decrease anxiety, stress and depression and increase self-awareness, self-esteem and promote insight into ones’ life”. Although I am not officially practicing art therapy, by creating art out of my own will I am decreasing the bad feelings and increasing my level of calm.

“Before there were anti-depressants there was poetry and, before there was language, there were cave drawings.” -Unknown



Winter Night

               I shake off all of my cold wet clothes as I step inside my warm house. The smell of hot cider engulfs me and my cheeks turn rosy red after being outside in the snow for so long. I walk up my stairs eager to change into dry clothes and I hang my coat by the fireplace. I sprint to my room and throw on comfy sweats and fuzzy socks and wrap myself in a fleece blanket. With my cat at my heels, I finally curl up in the corner of my couch and my mom brings me some warm cider to sip and soothe my throat. The Polar Express is playing on the t.v., and the flames in the fireplace heat up the room and my body temperature begins to rise. The twinkly Christmas lights reflect off the window, and they blend in with the stars in the night sky.

The scene recreated above demonstrates calm without having to directly state it. The white twinkly christmas lights creates a soft glow in the room and paired with the warmth of the fireplace, gives off a relaxing and calming feel to the atmosphere. Finally being warm after a long day in the cold winter air is soothing in itself. The sense of being cozy and safe inside the home is reassuring, relieving any negative feelings, ultimately creating a sense of calm.


Calm- Etymology

Late 14c., from Old French calme “tranquility, quiet,” traditionally from Old Italian calma, from Late Latin cauma “heat of the mid-day sun” (in Italy, a time when everything rests and is still), from Greek kauma “heat” (especially of the sun). Spelling influenced by Latin calere “to be hot.” Figurative application to social or mental conditions is 16c.

The word “Calm” originated in the late fourteenth century from the Old French word “calme, meaning “stillness, quiet, and tranquility”, and in Italy, the time of day when everything rests and is still. This is still a very pure and accurate description of the word today. Calm is often described or portrayed as a serene environment, and as a state of mind or being that is free from excitement or disturbance. 


I love the origin of calm in Italy, “A time when everything rests and is still”. To this day, the people of Italy take a break from their work and settle down a bit. They take a nap or just simply relax before returning to their activities. This time of day is typically mid-afternoon, after the “mid-day” meal, and is called a “riposo”. I love the idea and tradition of this- no matter how hectic life can be sometimes, they always make the time to forget their troubles and tend to personal matters. In my opinion, it is a healthy concept- personal business has been tended to, and you are able to return to your afternoon duties will full ambition. This idea also relates to the Greek origin of the word calm, meaning “heat (especially of the sun)”. When this mid-day nap/relaxing period takes place, it is typically very hot. Both origins work hand in hand in that aspect, which is pretty neat.


Fly Fishing

Calm is the catch a release of a healthy trout on a cold autumn day. One of God’s most delicate yet valuable creatures. The opportunity to become so intimate with a fish is a sensation like nothing else. To feel every muscle in the body of a fish pulse and peel line off a reel, to have the rod torqued with such power that no other animal of that size could come close to; the days I get to experience that are among the best days. Not many people have been able to stand in a river in the dead of winter and catch a trout in sub freezing temperatures. I wish I could explain the grace that comes with iced over guides when the line tightens and sprays the tiny shards of glassy ice on your face while simultaneously a gorgeous rainbow leaves the water in an attempt to shake the hook. The simple beauty of being able to imitate an insect landing still on the surface, imitating it so well that the fish thinks that it is edible; this is an astonishing feat to achieve. But the best and most calming part of being a fly fisherman is the release aspect. Think about it, the fish is in your basket submerged in the river and trapped, it is at your mercy and you decide its fate. You know undeniably that the fish will make for at least a few meals. But to know all of the great that this fish can provide for you while your letting it slip from your two slime coated hands back into its pool is the ultimate feeling of grace.

This video gives a visual description of what it is like to catch a release a trout.

I went to the Jersey shore after Sandy and did a bit of surfcasting on a long stretch of beach where the wreckage lined the sea wall. The seas were enormous reaching almost ten feet. I walked out along a long rock jetty where the waves would crash so hard on that the spray almost knocked me off of my feet. If I had fallen I would have likely lost my life to be smashed into the rocks by the surf. But in the midst of all of this chaos and wreckage, there I was fishing for striped bass without a care in the world accept what could be on the end of my line. Fly Fishing for me is something so entrancing that I can block out even the foulest of conditions to experience the feeling it brings to me.


beautiful brown trout

Today I walked into Calm

I sat in school all day and watched the snow fall straight. The flakes were large and fell at even rates of speed. The accumulation was rapid because the flakes would hit the ground and with the lack of wind they had no pressure to push them down, no wind. The snow was as fluffy as it could possibly be with the temperature sitting just below freezing so it was bearable to walk outside. I watched if fall all day and when it was time to go outside I knew just what I would walk into. The environment was completely still. There is nothing I love more than to have things slowed for me. Now the snow had made the pace of life bearable and calm enough to enjoy. My heart rate was at a resting pulse even as I walked to my car. The sensation I received from the contact of flakes on my cheeks was like nothing else.

Bon Iver’s Holocene is not necessarily about snow and the lyrics are not relevant to my post, but the sound applies perfectly to the feeling that comes with a light dusting of snow.

Calm in Chaos

I found it ironic how the two word categories “calm” and “chaos” follow each other in the category choices. Of course this means that they follow each other because of the alphabetical arrangement they are listed in, but the two words are polar opposites and that in itself is something worth writing about. I searched “calm in chaos” and found this picture/poem that I thought was very cool. On the surface we can see the calm. There are only the two colors of green and white, so that keeps it simple. I love how the snow is freshly fallen powder that seems to give the branches of the trees a great reason to slouch and be limp. Almost like they had a hard days work and they are bundled up on the couch covered in blankets, muscles relaxed and still. The snow forms little lumps that are very nicely rounded off. The lumps sit on the branches with such a large amount of surface area, but so little surface area makes contact with the branch itself. This makes the snow very unstable and very vulnerable to falling to its ground and blending in. But the weather is so calm and without motion that the snow is allowed to stay and give the branch reason to relax.

What we see on top is beautiful and serene. But what lies underneath is hellish. The trees are twisted and mangled by the overbearing weight of the snow that it cannot handle. There are exposed root systems and animal homes buried and destroyed. Underneath lies cold death of once fantastic nature. Just as we have on the side bar of categories to blog under, calm is on top of chaos.

Calm Music

There is nothing more soothing than falling asleep to music. I actually can’t seem to sleep well without it. Every night turn on my radio and plug in my ipod and not only do I fall asleep to music but I listen to it all night and wake up to music. I can’t fall asleep to just any music. Normally I have to listen to music with very few instruments. Normally when I select music to sleep with and just calm, soothing music in general it includes guitar almost always. It includes percussion, but if it is a drum set it is exclusive having only and snare, bass, hi-hat and floor tom. The drummer also plays with brushes or cane instead of real wooden sticks. Sometimes there is a bass and even less often a harmonica. But what really sets calm music aside from the rest of most music are its vocals and its beat/speed. The vocals from my favorite sleeping artists have deep, slow voices. The tempo must be slow, the time signature does not matter so much as the actual speed of the song. Jack Johnson embodies the element of calm music better than anyone else I’ve ever heard does. One of his most popular albums is sleep through the static. Ironically this is the perfect music to pass out to. The lyrics that Johnson writes are also calming.  Its calming to try and piece them together, there really is no way to do it, but just thinking about it helps me to fall asleep.

what you’re trying to prove

Because it’s a battle when you dabble in war
You store it up, unleash it, then you piece it together
Whether the storm drain running rampant just stamp it
And send it to somebody who’s pretending to care

Just cash in your blanks for little toy tanks
Learn how to use them, then abuse them and choose them
Over conversations relationships are overrated
“I hated everyone” said the sun

And so I will cook all your books
You’re too good looking and mistooken
You could watch it instead
From the comfort of your burning beds
…Or you can sleep through the static

Who needs sleep when we’ve got love?
Who needs keys when we’ve got clubs?
Who needs please when we’ve got guns?
Who needs peace when we’ve gone above
But beyond where we should have gone?
We went beyond where we should have gone

Stuck between channels my thoughts all quit
I thought about them too much, allowed them to touch
The feelings that rained down on the plains all dried and cracked
Waiting for things that never came

Shock and awful thing to make somebody think
That they have to choose pushing for peace supporting the troops
And either you’re weak or you’ll use brut force-feed the truth
The truth is we say not as we do

We say anytime, anywhere, just show your teeth and strike the fear
Of god wears camouflage, cries at night and drives a dodge
Pick up the beat and stop hogging the feast
That’s no way to treat an enemy

Well mighty mighty appetite
We just eat ’em up and keep on driving
Freedom can be freezing take a picture from the pretty side
Mind your manners wave your banners
What a wonderful world that this angle can see

But who needs to see what we’ve done?
Who needs please when we’ve got guns?
Who needs keys when we’ve got clubs?
Who needs peace when we’ve gone above
But beyond where we should have gone?
Beyond where we should have gone
We went beyond where we should have gone
Beyond where we should have gone


The Calm Before the Storm

The phrase “the calm before the storm” means to me; the surreal anticipation that is the precursor of the chaos to follow. It is the drastic difference in atmosphere that is divided by the stillness and calm and adverse, unpredictable weather to follow. We all have sat down on a porch or somewhere that is sheltered but also exposed enough so that the storm wont inflict damage but can still be felt. I remember sitting on my grandparents porch on Tyler Lake numerous times, watching as the clouds roll by. I know the feeling where the temperature increases and will sit still at a certain point until the storm has closed in enough so that the the temperature that can be felt on my skin can tell me what that the storm is coming. If I was blind my hearing and feeling would be able to tell me that inclement weather was approaching. Here is the scientific explanation for the phenomenon of barometric pressure increase and decrease that humans can physically sense from weather.

How much does gaseous water weigh? Not LIQUID water – I mean steam or vapor. Let’s figure it out. The chemical formula for water is H2O. One oxygen atom (atomic weight 16) and two hydrogen atoms (atomic weight 1). The total weight of the molecule is 18. Now how much does 22.4 liters (of the gas) weigh? 18 grams. One liter weighs 18/22.4 grams or 0.8 grams.

Now we’re getting close. You can see that air normally weighs 1.286 grams per liter (this is the “calm” mass of air before the storm) but, if we substitute water for some of the air, the mixture becomes lighter. So, if there’s water (otherwise known as humidity) in the air, the air mixure becomes LIGHTER – and it doesn’t push down so hard on the mercury and the barometer’s lower.    Here is the link I give credit to for this information.

So that information relates to the calm and chaos that normally happens in a summer time, thunder storm. The air gets humid and you can feel the temperature of the moisture in the air change right before the storm hits. I find it amazing how humans can sense the “calm before the storm” and then the change of surroundings and atmosphere when a storm arrives.

Calm, Cool and Collected

These are three words that I have heard from every coach I have ever had. In the coaches mind, each word wants you to do the same thing and that is to focus. The intended message to be relayed is that focus will bring success.
If the believe that if I were capable of ever being completely calm, cool, collected or focused at any point in time I would lead a far more successful and less confused life. There is so much to be aware of. College applications, school assignments, sports, clubs, religion, relationships, family and the list goes on. At this point in my life I am not able to succeed in all of these jobs, there is simply not enough time in the day. I am also sure that not only the majority of kids my age, but the rest of society has a hard time balancing all of their endeavors while staying calm and focused. This blog post is a message of consolation to those who understand where I am coming from. Times may seem stressful, there may seem to be no end to the work and no beginning to the calm we all look for. It sure seems that way to me sometimes. But I am sure that some day life will slow down; decelerate to a speed where focus is possible and peace and calm are attainable. I really have no clue as to when this race will become a less competitive stroll, but odds are it will come later that sooner. I look at people my age and see rushed lifestyles where life blows by us and the roses have no scent. I see my parents and my friends parents, there still seems to be that quick pace and lack of focus. But when I look at my grandparents and the other grandparents that occupy the sidelines during a soccer match I see what I look forward to. I see people content with their accomplishments and the past behind. I guess I have that to work towards, the ability to stay calm, cool and collected while enjoying my grandchild’s soccer game and not worrying about the nagging, relentless things I deal with now.

The epitome of calm, cool and collected is this guy. He has so little to think about and so much time to contemplate about his few tasks at hand. I want to say I envy him but I only envy part of him. I envy his ability to focus but not his caged lifestyle. If only I could learn that portion of his mentality.






Senseing Calm

Having the ability to sense somebody’s points of calm is a blessing. Slower breathing, relaxed muscles, being physically content, limpness. These are all attributes to a calm individual. I walked through a park once and saw a man staring at a squirrel and he was mesmerized by the little guy. He was paying attention to only the happiness of the squirrel. One time I pulled my car into a boat launch at a small pond and saw a man stand up with a guitar in his hand. There was no wind and the water was still. He was in a calm peaceful state of mind and I could sense I had disturbed it.

Calm at work

“free from excitement or passion;”     I found this definition online of the word calm. I find it to be completely wrong. When I am calm I am passionate. I find this definition to be completely false.

Then someone is calm they tend to be at peace with themselves and their surroundings. I know that when I am calm I accomplish the most. When I can slow things down and take some time to gather my thoughts and arrange them accordingly and absorb the day behind me, that is when I get the most work done. So for me being calm can make a day mean the most by learning the most from events and interactions.


The word calm is actually an old way of saying “still heat”, a heat that is not dry and yet not humid. It was used to describe the sort of day that just sat in wait and had the potential to be energetic but stayed still. This is why people associate the word calm with peace. Calm is a type of attitude where indifference is expressed.

In Italy the word calm was used to describe a day that rests and is still. That definition still carries over to today where the word calm is used to describe a lack of movement. Say a lake, where there’s no wind and no surface disturbance at all, it is untouched and still.

late 14c., from O.Fr. calme, traditionally from O.It. calma, from L.L. cauma “heat of the mid-day sun” (in Italy, a time when everything rests and is still), from Gk. kauma “heat” (especially of the sun), from kaiein “to burn.” Spelling influenced by L. calere “to be hot.” Figurative application to social or mental conditions is 16c