“Confidences is infectious, sexy and attractive – and you don’t need to spend as much money as I did to find it. That which gives us confidence is inside us waiting to come out”
In looking through other blogs, I came across a young woman’s post about her lack of self-confidence. She spoke of her troubles in adolescence and as a young adult due to her appearance. Deb explains how she had a massive overbite, gaps in her teeth, and was overweight. She did not allow people to take her picture and always hid from the public eye. This is very common in women as we always find flaws within ourselves and try our hardest to hide them, or hide behind them in this case.
I find her quote from the blog very key, because it doesn’t take perfection or the achievement of societies expectations. Confidence comes from within you, not the cosmetics on the outside. It is often found that the most beautiful, sweetest, and great people are not the prettiest or drop dead gorgeous. Deb gives to advice to find happiness within you, smile, don’t be afraid to let what’s on the inside out. She made the mistake of fixing her cosmetic problems before understanding who she really was. I believe everyone should learn from this, because it is true.
The desire for confidence is infectious, and it can be an amazing thing. Aren’t we all jealous of those who are so happy and sure of themselves? Those who are well developed and have a goal to get somewhere? It’s a human attraction both in jealousy and intimacy. Guys enjoy looking at the girls who can walk the walk and portray a sense of confidence in who they are.
Many times confidence will come with maturity and age, a sense of superego. However I find that many high-school are finding confidence in themselves through all the daily challenges of being a teenager.